I was lost. Has someone's death left you feeling empty, purposeless? Any suggestions about how to fill the hole?
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Michele
2/19/2015 03:15:33 pm
I just had a friend die. I feel guilty in not doing enough for her. I realize now it wasn't the physical stuff she needed/wanted done, it was the emotional/spiritual stuff. She told hospice she worried that Christ would accept her. It was the day that I learned she only had a few days to live. And even though I saw her retreating I still didn't tell her what she needed to hear because I wasn't able to accept it! until the next day when she was so sedate I'm not sure she understood what I had to say: that she is a child of God, she is his image and she was in all she did as a friend, a sister, a nurse. I hope she heard/felt my prayer and reflection....at least I know she does now
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robin
2/22/2015 06:59:17 am
I am sure she heard you and maybe more than that knew you loved her. Perhaps thoughts are the same as prayer.
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Tom Higdon
2/20/2015 05:33:25 am
What about the deceased parents who gave nothing, had much, and wanted more? They were selfmade and successful and thought if they could get more from their children's efforts it would all workout in the end because they hadn't needed more. I'm certain they never understood why no one liked them at the end. As my brother said, when I asked him how he felt after their deaths - "grateful." My word was "relieved." Both faithful to the end, but to each other. Oh well...maybe it will all work out when you get to live a life better than you've seen.
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robin
2/22/2015 07:06:58 am
I hope that forgiveness can creep into this story sometime......difficult parents make it hard. Not an easy task, and maybe not anything you are ready to tackle. My own work in counseling has been around the truth of accepting that we all do the best we can.......it may not be what we want or need, but it is what it is. My anger at my parents has held me back for too long. Like a noose I never knew I had until gradually letting it go. A real creativity killer. Thanks for honesty, Tom. Your story rings true for me.
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